TOGETHER,WE CAN RULE THE GALAXY AS FATHER AND SON!

Darth Vader: Obi-Wan never told you what happened to your father.
Luke: He told me enough! He told me you killed him!
Darth Vader: No. I am your father.
Luke: No. No. That's not true. That's impossible!
Darth Vader: Search your feelings, you know it to be true!
Luke: [anguished] No! No!

It is easy for a father to have children than for children to have a real father. ~Pope John XXIII

There are three stages of a man's life:  He believes in Santa Claus, he doesn't believe in Santa Claus, he is Santa Claus.  ~Author Unknown

Why are men reluctant to become fathers? They aren't through being children. ~Cindy Garner

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Now that I have a son and heir, I need to start worrying about what kind of man I help him develop in to...it's worth a good worry, because do it wrong and you can end up like old Darth and Luke. There's a fine balance between a steer and a push, and pushing never works.
 I am not particularly concerned WHAT he does, provided he does it well...'half arsed' is so very unrewarding in the long run, but difficult to stop once you get good at it.


 The list of what I don't want for my boy is far more extensive than the list that says what I do, as far as careers go.

 I DO want a gentleman, that's important. The whole 'walk on the outside of a lady' 'hold the door open' thing...that's a must. I do want honesty..except where being so is clearly the dumbest idea ever. Integrity's good too, in moderation (yes the two things are different). I don't mind him being able to look after himself, but i'll not stand for a bully...never throw the first punch is the rule, and ideally his words should be his weapon, as has been the way of Sewell men for many generations. It is completely possible to win a fight armed only with Sarcasm..I have done it on several ocassions, and the victory is so much sweeter than if a fist is thrown.

 I don't want a son interested in DANCE, or HAIRDRESSING, but I don't see that it is my place to actively prevent the career...if it gets as far as the application form then my efforts at careful guidance will have failed long before that point.  I will attempt to guide my son along the more 'manly' path in life, but will not put him up against the wall and stone him if he should choose a different path.

 He should be well travelled, savvy, able to function on his own and adapt to circumstance. I can help with all those things. I want him to be able to express himself in word and voice, to be able to confidently speak, and speak his mind. 

He will not be religious.
I will ensure, no matter how wrong the sheep may feel it is, that he sees the danger of organised religion, that he is aware that is a divider of men, not something that brings them together...this will be the one thing I will not stand down from, the one thing I will attempt to program into him. If it's brainwash via a church or brainwash via a school or brainwash via me...then I know that 'via me' is the best outcome when it comes to matters of a religious nature. I won't expect him to hiss when he sees a Vicar a Rabbi or a Priest, but i'll expect him to think 'twat' and smile smugly at his own ability to avoid indoctrination.  Science is the way forward..and it can only move forward a step for each step religion takes back into the shadows. It may be the science of father and son duels with Light sabres, it may be the science of smug homosexual droids and giant floating Battle stations...but it's science that will see the Human race off of this planet before we eventually screw it up beyond the point where a few quid in the 'Green peace collection box' can save everything. 


It's a scary prospect..being given a blank Human canvas and being the first to paint on it. It requires considerable self reflection and a rigourous process of elimination when it comes to what is and is not painted..but to not paint at all is like throwing your offspring to the lions...if we are not here to learn and pass on shit..then why the Hell would we be here at all?